Valuing Unity over Correctness
‘Better a dry crust in peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife’
• Proverbs 17:1
‘Better a small serving of vegetables with love than a fattened calf with hatred’
• Proverbs 15:17
One of the first lessons I learnt in marriage is the simple truth that being correct has no bearing on whether or not you are right. Just because I think the schedule I’ve set is the best one (from my perspective) doesn’t mean it’s the best one for my wife. Meaning that the desire to do what one thinks is best is not enough when one is trying to DO what is best for the marriage. That is because unity requires more that one’s perspective, it requires mutual truth and empathy for one another.
In scripture it is clear that to God, unity is a worthwhile pursuit, even over efficiency and sometimes even effectiveness. God is pleased when He sees His children united (Psalm 133) perhaps even more than our most righteous works (Isaiah 64).
One of the tensions of any community or family which seeks to move forward and grow is that every person tends to have their own view of what is important and vital. Scripture however, reminds us that within God’s sovereign will there is one blessing which we must always hold dear, the union with Christ, the Church and the eternal Kingdom which was bought for by the blood of Jesus.
Let’s strive to be a people that resist overvaluing a sense of progress and undervaluing unity. If there is unforgiveness, pain, bitterness or even misunderstanding, let our hearts be set to value unity with one another over our own desires to be correct.
May God bless us and keep us.